Summary: In this post I will talk about the first step towards a richer and more fulfilling life , the first step towards change.I will talk about how I view change in a future post and this I think it will be interesting because I think that change comes from inside and it's supposed to make you a freer version of yourself.Change towards what you want from life makes you less limited or even limitless.
The first step toward change is:
ASSUME FULL RESPONSIBILITY
This is the first and maybe the hardest thing to do if you have never done it in your life,most of us live their whole life thinking that someone or something is responsible for everything that happens to them,that they have little or no control for whatever happens and this thinking makes them feel meaningless as just another sheep in the herd, just another leaf in the wind.
So if you want to be happy you should get ride of this mentality and reframe it because you're the only one that gives a damn about what happens to you (besides your parents and maybe a friend or two but I sincerely doubt that :)))) to others it's not important because they have their own problems to keep them busy.
You should assume full responsibility for the things that happen to you and know that if not all of them at least 90% are attracted by your thinking. I'm not going to start emphasize about the power of positive thinking because I think you heard about this even if you are not applying this in your life but I think you should start in order to decide if it works for you (it will work).
If you consider yourself unlucky ,stop that and start thinking at the good things that happen to you and soon you'll notice that good things start to happen more often,and more often until finally you will see that you will be able to attract good luck with your positive thinking.I talk from my own experience a year and a half ago I was thinking that I'm probably one of the most unlucky person on the face of the earth. I was blaming everybody for my mistakes ,everybody but me.After I realised that blaming others it s not helping and that I'm responsible for whatever happens to me and I started to act as if I am the one that runs the show that I'm the one that's responsible,everything started to shift . I'm not talking about a short-run miracle because even when I understood that I have the responsibility to be happy and that I'm the one to be in charge it took me a couple of months just to get used to the idea that I don't have anyone to blame for my mistakes anymore so the shift probably will not come immediately but it will come.
So keep in mind that your way of thinking can be your most important ally or foe."Whatever the mind can conceive the man can achieve" says Napoleon Hill in "Think and grow rich" I'm going to end by saying to you that if you decide to do take full responsibility you should take it because you know that's something that's not quite right in your life and you owe it to yourself to be happy (that if you haven't gave up yet ,if so you've already lost and I have another terrible news...nobody it's gonna come and give you happiness because you don't want it that much , you're not ready to fight for it and if that's so the fight it's lost) .
written in April 2007
"Whatever the mind can conceive the man can achieve"